A lot of famous actors, singers, producers, scientists? Pretty much anyone great, have been told the worst things ever, in the name of “what’s good for you”. And Shalate Sekhabi was one of those on the receiving end of such hateful words.
Kgabang Sekhabi popularly known as Shalate Sekhabi, is a 22 year old South African actress and model. She is best known for the roles in the television soap opera as, The River, and House of Zwide. And while a lot of people are wowed by the actress’ beauty and excellent TV acting skills.
There seem to be some haters in her way. And in this article we will talk about Kgabang’s experience with haters who told her to quit music and acting altogether. Telling her she’s not enough and wasn’t cut out for it. But before that, let’s look into a bit of background on Kgabang or Shalate Sekhabi.
Early Life and Career break through
Kgabang Shalate Sekhabi was born in Mahikeng, in North West. She speaks fluent Tswana and English. However, that’s not all, the actress has a background in acting. Her father is the renowned playwright, Aubrey Sekhabi. So, her passion and thirst for acting was fueled and sustained even at home.
With her father being more of a driving force behind the passion. However, she didn’t just take that as is. But had to work hard to cement herself as an actress. So, after completing her high school education at Crawford High school. She went on to study at the Witswatersrand University of Johannesburg to study Film and Television.
How did it all begin
However, her debut wasn’t after high school. Sekhabi was a precocious model and child actor. She began her arts career from the age of 11 years old she had already started modeling. The agency she was under was Steele models. And, things couldn’t get better, at the age of 14 she had her first two film debuts.
So, by convention, she literally has over a decade of acting and modeling experience. Not counting that she did drama from the age of 8 years old. So, why would anyone ever say such evil things to such an obviously experienced and talented actress. We’ll get into that shortly.
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So, what really happened to Shalate Sekhabi?
According to Shalate, this is something she had been hiding for a while. And this was her testimony in her own words.
“I never do this but I really felt the need to share. Recently I had a conversation with somebody who told me that | should quit music/ modeling/acting ect cause “it’s not gonna work out for me, I’m not gonna make it, I’m not cut out for it”. Not gonna lie, at first I was really disheartened by the fact that a complete stranger, who knows nothing about me, my life or anything about the pain and tears it took to get to the person I am today, would tell me that I’m not good enough.
I allowed myself to get so upset and consumed by what this person said that I actually did consider quitting because I told myself that a lot of other people may feel the same way about me and that it would be embarrassing to continue if everybody else also thought “she’s not cut out for it” but then I remembered a conversation I had with my mom, she told me that I will meet people who genuinely just thrive at bringing others down, people who try to advise you in that a lot of other people may feel the same way about me and that it would be embarrassing to continue if everybody else also thought “she’s not cut out for it”.
But, then I remembered a conversation I had with my mom, she told me that I will meet people who genuinely just thrive at bringing others down, people who try to advise you in the name of “knowing what’s best” just so they can deter you from the greatness that they themselves know you are capable of.
You will encounter some really bitter people in life, that’ll make you feel like shit but you honestly can’t let people like that win. Know yourself and have faith in yourself, your dreams and goals. Never lose focus and always trust the process. Just cause things may not be moving at the pace you want them to, doesn’t mean you won’t make it to where you wanna go. Don’t let negative people bring you down, there’s so many other people that see the light in you and are rooting for you.
What was the aftermath for Shalate Sekhabi
As Kgabang said above, the person was a stranger who knew nothing about her. So, as a result, this got to her head and she really thought she was horrible and people just couldn’t tell her. Kgabang is a singer songwriter with two known singles “Trust” and “Lerato”.
So, the person who told her that wanted her to quit both. And it took her a while to figure out how to come back from that. But she did and said that it was her mother’s wise words that took her out of that dark place. So, likewise, don’t let people tell you what you can and can’t do. Always remember to keep going and set your own limits.